DOWNSIZING. You are not alone if the word brings on a sense of foreboding, maybe even dread. What?! Take all that I have accumulated in the last several decades of my life and pare it down? Where to start? How to start? How to finish?
Fortunately, you don’t have to tackle this process on your own. There are a number of resources locally, and nationally there is a budding industry of senior moving managers. Mary Kay Buysee, Executive Director for the National Association of Senior Move Mangers says “they step in when seniors can’t downsize alone, or would rather not, or when the sorting and moving process gets too contentious, or when adult children live hundreds or thousands of miles away or are otherwise unavailable.” In addition, most of us are finding out that our children want very little when it comes to the possessions, we spent a lifetime collecting. (After a full day of visiting and looking at our house-full of treasures, our oldest son asked for just one special item – the lawnmower.) Our culture is becoming more transient and reliant on all things that can be kept digitally as opposed to in a box.
Timing makes a huge difference in how we experience the process; it comes down to control. When we ‘choose’ to do something, we are in the driver’s seat. Feel the metaphorical brakes go on when you are told that you ‘have’ to do something. Downsizing is not only a daunting task; it takes a lot of physical and emotional energy. Better to approach it when we know we are capable as opposed to after some sort of crisis.
Downsizing – to make something smaller. At a time in our lives when the children have moved on and many of us are leaving the work force, we have the opportunity to make choices for our future. Rather than think of ‘downsizing’ as making our world smaller, what if we approach it as the process by which we create space to compose a fuller life, one that is dominated by the things we want to do rather than have to do? The more space and possessions we own, the more we have to take care of, whether dusting, scrubbing or mowing. Alleviate the clutter from our lives and we are freed up to spend more time doing the things we have always wanted to do. By letting go of our ‘stuff’ we create a void that can be filled with new activities and relationships, ones that we can nourish and develop in the next chapter of our lives.
Understanding why we feel challenged and knowing there are organizations that can assist in the process might point us in the right direction but will not necessarily get the ball rolling or lessen the feeling of being overwhelmed. This is where you can call on the Leasing Team at the senior community you have your eye on. A good Leasing Team will be able to recommend trusted movers, downsizers, etc. to assist in the process. Our team at The Montecito goes a step further and will come by for a Home Visit(s). When we see you in your home and get to know more about you we are better able to assist in the entire process, from determining your ‘must haves’ and how to best lay out your new casita or apartment to knowing who to recommend for your specific needs, whether sorting, donating, selling, packing or moving.
When you decide to make a move to the Montecito, our commitment to you begins at that moment. Our Leasing Team is here to help you sort out not only what you are looking for and if we are the right fit, but how to get from where you are to where you want to be. Maybe you know you want to make a change but have not determined where you want to go – give us a call anyway! We are professionals in our field, and our job is to assist in finding the best living situation for you.